Some believe weddings should be all about the bride. A wedding is the bride’s day, and the extent of a wedding invitee (including the groom) realizes that, and stuffs his/her drama and solipsism and peevishness in a sack in order to honour her, is the extent of that person’s spiritual development. So what does the bride want? One would urge you to say: “Listen, there is some potential for drama from a couple of family members and their spouses. As a matter of fact, they can be downright rude and suck all the air out of the room. I suppose they expect to be invited to your wedding, but they certainly don’t have to be. Your call.” And if she doesn’t want them, don’t invite them. Hey, relative or no, being invited to things is a privilege, not a right – one you earn through being charming and grateful and polite.